Thread Topic: The problem social phobics have with introverts
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PeoplePhobic
Joined: May 5, '09
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2009-05-07 09:22:55 |
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Let me first say I don't have a problem with introverts per se. The problem is that social phobics get confused with introverts. Introverts genuinely want to be left alone. They don't like socializing. A person with social anxiety actually wishes very much to be able to socialize. Other people usually treat us like introverts, though, leaving us alone and assuming we don't want to talk. This is really quite a problem because we depend on the other person to break the ice or get the conversation going. It helps if others try to draw us out of our shells. I wish more people would realize that and not assume we want to be left alone. |
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disorderguy
Joined: May 5, '09
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2009-05-11 09:56:53 |
| Yep, that's a good point. I also find that when people perceive me as shy they tend to leave me alone. Maybe they think that's what I prefer, or maybe they just know I'm not a good conversationalist. Either way, it presents its own challenges. | |
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heatherrr
Joined: May 6, '09
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2009-05-12 14:10:56 |
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idk how ppl think of me cos i dnt talk or dont like other people to see or hear me talk to someone about personal things very f'ed up |
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Mimi
Joined: May 22, '09
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2009-05-22 09:44:55 |
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Mimi
Joined: May 22, '09
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2009-05-22 09:48:31 |
| I would love to be able to enjoy social events. I push myself to participate in them, then sit there with that cold knot in my stomach, waiting for an opportunity to bolt! | |
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wchris
Joined: May 31, '09
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2009-05-31 08:54:57 |
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PeoplePhobic, my older sister was my "buddy system" for breaking the ice, but when she left for college I took a social dive. (and this was decades ago!) Sometimes just one accepting, outgoing person who understands us or at least includes us and doesn't misjudge us is a huge help. |
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cheshire83
Joined: Jul 2, '09
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2009-07-02 04:15:56 |
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I'm sometimes puzzled as to whether I'm an introvert or if its a social phobia. Or perhaps both. I do like time alone. Often its where I would rather be. But theres often times where I wish I had more friends or would be more active around people but at the same time refrain from doing that for fear of being noticed for all the wrong reasons, whatever they might be. I don't know if that makes sense at all. |
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Lavender
Joined: Jul 4, '09
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2009-07-04 22:26:25 |
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i am the same way. There are many times that i WANT to be alone... yet most of the time i find myself wishing that i could have more friendships. however- when i am with a group of people it's like i shut down. i don't talk. i tend to feel awkward, anxious, and uncomfortable. which i think is the reason i like being alone. I do very much wish to socialize but it doesn't really work out so well... I've always considered myself an introvert, because even if it is due to my possible disorder i don't consider myself an extrovert. i associate that term with social and outgoing. People perceive me as shy too, yet sometimes people perceive me as stuck up- just because i'm quiet. I too tend to depend on others to start conversation or break the ice... and for me there haven't been too many people in my life to really try to "draw me out of my shell" but it really can be helpful... idk... sorry that was a lot of babbling |
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Lavender
Joined: Jul 4, '09
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2009-07-04 22:27:45 |
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i am the same way. There are many times that i WANT to be alone... yet most of the time i find myself wishing that i could have more friendships. however- when i am with a group of people it's like i shut down. i don't talk. i tend to feel awkward, anxious, and uncomfortable. which i think is the reason i like being alone. I do very much wish to socialize but it doesn't really work out so well... I've always considered myself an introvert, because even if it is due to my possible disorder i don't consider myself an extrovert. i associate that term with social and outgoing. People perceive me as shy too, yet sometimes people perceive me as stuck up- just because i'm quiet. I too tend to depend on others to start conversation or break the ice... and for me there haven't been too many people in my life to really try to "draw me out of my shell" but it really can be helpful... idk... sorry that was a lot of babbling |
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