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Hachikobarks
Joined: Oct 2, '09
Status: New User |
2009-10-02 21:29:04 |
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Be prepared, This post is mostly just ranting. @_@ Don't mind me. Um, I've noticed lately, that I've become more dependent on what others thought of me. I often think back to conversations I've had earlier to see if I've said anything wrong and if I did, I get really depressed. I don't like going like 1 on 1 with people, because I always feel like I'm burdening them. That they could be hanging out with some other kid who can talk and have fun conversations instead of having a one sided one with me full of awkward pauses and tension. -__- I love all the people I'm around, truely but sometimes it feels like I don't belong. I'm not very pretty and everyone seems to have so much going on in their lives. This was even worse last year, I was so depressed because I thought everyone hated me. Recently, this guy has been taking special interest in me and wants me to hang out with him- Honestly, I'm scared. I really am, because around guys well I..kind of get this nervous feeling in my stomach like I'm going to throw up. We were friends before this and I know if I go anywhere with him, Our friendship will end. It'll be so awkward. I don't want that to happen. Every single time I'm around him I'm like 'PLEASE don't likelike me!' in my mind, because I don't want to lose me buddy. I often have to make up excuses just to not go with him alone because I'm afriad. I know, it'll be awkward, and I can't stand those type of situations. Then there's the thing of rejecting him if he does likelike me, which I CANNOT do. I'd probably be depressed for like a year. I'm just sad like that. I have this problem with saying no, because I'm afriad they may end up being mad because of it. .__. Plus, I'll know he hates me, and..I don't want that to happen. Any helpful suggestions? |
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Unanswered Thread: So many (bad) emotions posted by FadingLights 14 minutes ago |
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wowu
Joined: Sep 30, '09
Status: New User |
2009-10-04 14:21:16 |
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hey, I hope you don't think that something is wrong with you. Being shy isn't that uncommon and one may consider it even charming. Just a normal trait of person. And surely you can overcome it a bit. IMHO if he likelikes you can just wait (one day he will loose pink glasses) or think how much do you like him. Anyway - why can't you just go with him as a buddy and just say no in the right moments. I am not much of a help for you but I wonder how will it end. |
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fantasy
Joined: Jul 28, '09
Status: Junior User |
2009-10-05 07:06:23 |
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Same thing happened to me one of my good guy friends began to like me and asked me out, I panicked, thought I wasn't good enough for him, actually anyone, and ruined my relationship with him, now we barely even say Hi, and it's really awkward, and we only talk if other people are there. This seems to happen with every guy who likes me Don't let this happen to you! You can either try to improve your self esteem and think that you ARE good enough for anybody, and go out with him, or if you think you'll mess that up, try to avoid speaking to him one-on-one TOO much, smile and make it evident how you're interested in him ONLY as a friend, or pretend to like soem other guy, mght make him sad but will cool him off. Just a few suggestions, might work, might NOT work, I just hope what keeps happening to me doesn't happen to you. |
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Unanswered Thread: What to do?! posted by Jeanine 5 hours ago |
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