Just when you think your family can't get worse

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niklared
Joined: Oct 19, '09
Status: Junior User
2009-11-01 03:23:46
I know this has nothing to do with BPD or anything but I need to rant. NEED to rant.

So, I was brought up by my mother and step-father, who recently stopped speaking to me. I felt like I had no parents anymore. But I'm a grown up and I can take care of myself, I don't need them. I just miss them. But, thats a different story.

Last night I went to a club for Halloween. Had only been there enough time to have one drink when I bumped in to my older sister. (My OLDEST sister lives in Philli, was adopted at birth and Ive known her 3 years, but again a different story)

My so Sister said to me "I need to have a talk with you" so after a few short minutes of discussing where and when was appropriate for said talk she just blurted it out-

"I've been talking to our biological father since June."
Now, I haven't seen him in 15 years. I don't remember him, what he looks like or sounds like. Nothing.

But the thing is. I'd already known for 3 days because she made the mistake of telling me ex. He told me. So I did some searching and found him on Facebook. So for 3 days I had been trying so hard not to send this guy a message. So when she told me last night it meant I could. I left the club and got home as fast as I could, heart pounding I sent him "Hello. She told me".

So its done. I have a dad now. A dad thousands of miles away, I'm in UK, he's in US. This is so hard to process. For years and years I just didn't have a dad. I only had a step-dad. Its so strange.
My sister told me lots of things, like how he got in touch with my mother when I was 13 and she never told me! He had another child, a son, and is married. So in 3 years I have suddenly got another sister, another brother and a father!

ARGHHHHHHHHHH MY HEAD HURTS!!!!!
Unanswered Thread:
   So many (bad) emotions posted by FadingLights 9 minutes ago
Synapse
Joined: Oct 24, '09
Status: Junior User
2009-11-01 04:20:14
I know this has nothing to do with BPD or anything

I know this has nothing to do with BPD or anything

I know this has nothing to do with BPD or anything

I know this has nothing to do with BPD or anything

>_>
Synapse
Joined: Oct 24, '09
Status: Junior User
2009-11-01 04:21:41
Also that's a walk in the park compared to my family
Fatality
Joined: Jul 14, '09
Status: Senior User
2009-11-01 04:27:25
Srsly dude, quit trolling :\

Do you have any plans to talk to him, or meet him or anything?
niklared
Joined: Oct 19, '09
Status: Junior User
2009-11-01 04:51:02
Synapse F U C K O F F! If I could only ban you from replying to my posts you sad, lonely excuse of a human being!

You don't know my life story so how the hell would you know what my family life is like?! Go f---ing screw yourself! WTF DID I EVER DO TO YOU?!?!?!


Fatality. I have messaged him. Out of curiosity mostly.
Synapse
Joined: Oct 24, '09
Status: Junior User
2009-11-01 05:20:38
You just told me what your family life is like.
Fatality
Joined: Jul 14, '09
Status: Senior User
2009-11-01 05:44:59
Out of curiosity? I hope you guys get along well. If your sister seems to be getting along with him, so should you ;D
In theory.
Good luck with it anyway!
niklared
Joined: Oct 19, '09
Status: Junior User
2009-11-01 10:39:02
Really synapse? I'm so sure I totally just gave you an in depth description of my family life like! I wish it were that easy! Don't open your mouth about things you nothing about. Moron!

Yeah Fatality. I imagine if shes getting on with him ok I will. But I will just see. Thanks x
fantasy
Joined: Jul 28, '09
Status: Junior User
2009-11-01 19:45:08
Niklared, just try to ignore anything hurtful Synapse says ... he has issues of his own so it's hard for him to be nice.

I'm glad you found your biological father! I don't know how this will turn out but it seems like you've been wanting to meet him a long time. I hope you guys all get along. Good luck no matter what happens!
Synapse
Joined: Oct 24, '09
Status: Junior User
2009-11-01 20:02:45
wat. I don't have issues.
elisafauzana
Joined: Aug 27, '09
Status: Senior User
2009-11-01 20:32:24
sure Syanapse? u sound defensive
fantasy
Joined: Jul 28, '09
Status: Junior User
2009-11-01 21:09:03
Synapse doesn't have to share if he doesn't want to

:)
niklared
Joined: Oct 19, '09
Status: Junior User
2009-11-02 08:18:36
Thanks Fantasy. I'm excited but scared at the same time. I think it might work out.

xxx
Unanswered Thread:
   What to do?! posted by Jeanine 5 hours ago
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