Thread Topic: Getting Better
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Pressing Forward
Joined: Sep 16, '09
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2009-09-16 20:58:49 |
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Hi. I am new here :) I don't want to talk about my problems. Instead, I want to move past/through them. I want to heal and be a productive person in all areas of my life. I would like to know if anyone here has come across therapies or strategies that have helped them overcome their dependence issues. At the moment I am using various strategies to reconnect with myself inlcuding (inner child healing, nonviolent communication, seeing my condition as a set of learnt behaviours that can be unlearnt. However, I am really struggling with resistance. Thanks. |
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Unanswered Thread: No Subject posted by alwaysknew 1 day ago |
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bigdumbguy
Joined: Sep 28, '09
Status: New User |
2009-09-28 15:11:10 |
| Keep Trying,you can do it,keep trying. | |
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Pressing Forward
Joined: Sep 16, '09
Status: New User |
2009-09-28 19:13:06 |
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Hi, Thanks for the encouragement. It was so nice to read! I had a curious breakthrough with my resistance. I have been talking to my "inner child" for a couple of years now. However, the process of connecting with myself has been quite difficult but sometimes quite surprising. I told my little girl the things I like about her - the tears came flooding and I was able to make some progress on some things that I'd been procrastinating about for years. I struggle with the notion of being fundamentally flawed and unworthy. By telling my little girl what I like about her I felt a shift that was more pronounced when I said “I like the way you…” or “I like your…”. The connection was not as deep when I said “I like my…” or “I like the way I…”. The path to healing for me has been about reconnection with myself and exposing the shame and humiliation I suffered as a child. I disagree with the notion that I am going to be suffering with this condition (DPD) for the rest of my life. I have come this far and have faith that I will continue to grow. I liked the suggestion that I should pray. I have been doing that for a few years now and I feel very encouraged by that. I like the idea of a “Higher Power”. It has been pivotal in helping me to let go and to live a life that has me feeling safer. There are some great verses in the bible that essentially translate to “If it doesn’t kill you, it’s makes you stronger”. I am choosing to believe that I have been given what I need to make me stronger. Today I can say that I like me :) PF |
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alwaysgrowing
Joined: Oct 30, '09
Status: New User |
2009-10-30 18:21:05 |
| to gettingbetter, I am on your wavelength. I choose to see chalenges that can be learned from. I am having great problems, liking myself. I relate to your inner child interactions, but still struggle. Do you have any tips for me to like who I was and who I have grown to be? | |
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Pressing Forward
Joined: Sep 16, '09
Status: Junior User |
2009-10-31 00:40:36 |
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Hi alwaysgrowing, Tell yourself, your little child, how much you love them and what you like about them, for example: "I love you so very much". "I really like the way you want to get better and grow". "I really like the nick name you have given yourself 'alwaysgrowing'". That sort of thing. Forgive yourself too for everything you can think of :) There's the old stand at the mirror with the positive affirmations. I haven't done that one for a while. Oh Yeah, congratulate yourself on all the growth already. "I really love how you've grown. I love that you want to do this. It is so hard and you want to do it. It is slow going and you want to do. I love that you are prepared to work so hard, not matter what gets in your way, no matter how many set backs". And it is hard. We're trying to retrain ourselves and do for us what our parents didn't have the skills to do. Without role models, we're giving it a red hot go. Of course there are going to be periods of time where we surrender ourselves to old behaviours. That's part and parcel of this walk. Good luck :) |
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Firaphrin
Joined: Nov 6, '09
Status: New User |
2009-11-06 16:35:31 |
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Good luck with that healing! goodness knows we could all use some of that positive attitude. My problem? my inner child looks like something out of one of Mark Ryden's MEAT paintings. XD |
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Pressing Forward
Joined: Sep 16, '09
Status: Junior User |
2009-11-06 23:31:24 |
| I can understand that Firaphrin. The last couple of days have been a struggle for me and I'm back to some of my old habits - eating poorly, not going for my walks, putting n weight, not talking to my little girl, not using my journal. It scares me that life has become a list of "to do things" just to maintain some balance so that I can do other stuff. | |
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sandranyc
Joined: Jan 23, '10
Status: New User |
2010-01-24 10:34:52 |
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I am doing therapy and they use the EMDR technique(EMDR - Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing).It was initially used to treat trauma survivors,but now they uese to treat co dependent people as well.I think is good.I am having a lot of progress doing that. |
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erinro
Joined: Nov 13, '09
Status: Senior User |
2010-01-24 14:49:21 |
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Haha Firaphrin. Funny. I will let you know what my inner child looks like when I see her. As for forgiving yourself, I was doing a "lovingkindness" group meditation a few months ago and the person leading the session out of the blue said, after instructing us to tell ourselves to be well and happy, forgive yourself for things that have happened in the past, and I started crying! That has never happened before. But it was nice.. How does EMDR work? |
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wanttogrow
Joined: Jan 25, '10
Status: New User |
2010-01-25 14:40:41 |
| Hey, I am really encouraged reading your posts. I think I have dpd too. I read alot about it lately, and I fit so well. I had psychotherapy 5 years ago, but the psychiatrist just did not mention what I have. I think I have a right to know. I will be starting psychotherapy again. This time I'll make sure I am told exactly what my problem is. As I said I fit in dpd. I had a very difficult childhood... today I'm trying to become indipendent, after relying on a person for about 15 years. Its been a year now. I was doing inner child dialogues, but I stopped. After reading your posts, I was encouraged to continue. I was doing progress, but as I realised what my problem is I got too anxious and obsessed about it. I hadnt realised and accepted that I have a mental disorder until 2 weeks ago, I guess. I really want to change | |
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