Thread Topic: scar and depression
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poncefrances
Joined: Oct 29, '09
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2009-10-29 05:07:16 |
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I feel like all alone now. I feel like I'm not normal. I feel very depressed. I had a hole-like scar in my forehead and I regularly hide it with my bangs whenever I go out especially in school. Since I was in first year college my hairstyle didn't change until one of my classmates teased me about my bangs. He found out that I had a scar on my forehead. Maybe he told some of our college friends (he is also my friend-- part of the group) that I had a scar that I am hiding long before. From that time, some of my close friends started teasing me (not actually teasing in words but an attempt to touch my hair and disarrange it-- something like that) and I feel very humiliated whenever they do it. Since from that moment, fears and worries triggered my mind and I felt very very down. I started self-pitying though I don't do it cause I'm a somewhat positive person. I'm very active and energetic to achieve competence since from the moment I entered college. But all went crashed in a sudden because of that particular instance. I cannot help myself and I started fantasizing things thinking solutions that are not real (like miracles-- silly, isn't it?) I usually hang out with my friends but it went over since from that moment. I do things on my own not like before. I am afraid to go to school. I always hide myself and felt threatened whenever there is someone (in school) who knows me sees me. I constantly evade them. I'm really out of the group and I felt rejected. I cry constantly and felt helpless. It seems that scar on my forehead brought much psychological and emotional storm on me though I thought it just a small problem. Because of that, it seems that I had already a social phobia and maybe anxiety disorder. I'm constantly depressed almost everyday. I felt really really helpless and it's ruining my life. Perhaps, I thought that there is no problem with my scar (I planned to have a surgery) but on my emotional and psychological aspect. I know I'm weak emotionally and I think there are so many disorders in my mind. My friend teases me that I had signs of autism but I don't my it. They just don't understand me. Please help me cause I'm afraid to go to school now. I'm alone, very lonely. advice or self-help books could help. |
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Unanswered Thread: board posted by Natalie 4 minutes ago |
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elisafauzana
Joined: Aug 27, '09
Status: Senior User |
2009-10-29 05:55:21 |
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poncefrances, if the scar affects your life to this extent, do talk to your parents to arrange for professional help.A cosmetic surgery cud help.Just remember that this problem could be solved with professional help. as for your emotional n psychological aspect, with your new look, the feelings cud change back to who u were. |
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fantasy
Joined: Jul 28, '09
Status: Junior User |
2009-11-01 20:00:20 |
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Just to tell you, I know what you mean, in a way... my "friends" used to tease me a lot also, although they were just joking around I would get very deeply hurt and depressed. (Nowadays, I don't take s--- from them) Even if they are just kidding around you need to let them know you don't like it. You have to stop the teasing, I know it seems like a small thing but sensitive people like us get affected easily. I would agree with elisafauzana, if the scar affects your life this much you should talk to your parents about getting it removed. If you're too embarrassed to talk to them or they say no, try ordinary makeup, like foundation, if the scar's not too bad it can help. But don't think that just fixing the scar will make everything okay, I think the scar as well as the teasing and self consciousness and constant depression hurt you a lot emotionally. It's just like being sick for a long time, you need to recover and nurture yourself back to health ... girl I'm so sorry this happened to you, I get depressed a lot too so I know how terrible terrible it feels inside. The only solid advice I can give you is to try and talk to someone who you know cares for you and will try to understand you. Talking to such a person will build up your self confidence and put some light in your life. I know this helped me so much. If you can't find a person like this try a school counselor or I'm always happy to chat you, though I'm not on much. You can add vrielis at aim/msn or blyssung at yahoo. I hope things get better for you, because I know how painful and hurting it can be ... |
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poncefrances
Joined: Oct 29, '09
Status: New User |
2009-11-02 21:16:52 |
| thank you very much fantasy. I will look forward into it. I'm still recovering from that storm. The good thing is I'm aware now of myself, my weaknesses, my strengths. I'm working on it and I hope and pray that I could eventually get myself back on track. | |
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wowu
Joined: Sep 30, '09
Status: Junior User |
2009-11-12 06:40:01 |
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I agree with fantasy on the point that the scar isn't everything. I do not thinks that anyone cares about this scar whatever it looks like. It is just you who is afraid of ... rejection, that people would treat you another way or avoid you. Sure people notice such a things but never do any major problem - if they like you - no matter if you got any scares. Yeah - this is theory but you should look for some information about people who are very positive but they had to overcome much more difficult issues with accepting their appereance. Besides - who likes own body? Always it is too big / small / short / long / funny /weird and so on. come on |
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emogirl3
Joined: Nov 8, '09
Status: New User |
2009-11-12 18:08:17 |
| my teacher told me i was depressed. | |
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fantasy
Joined: Jul 28, '09
Status: Senior User |
2009-11-13 09:09:31 |
| I disagree somewhat with Wowu's point that you're the problem. Only the strongest and bluntest of souls can have the confidence Wowu talks about. Sensitive people like me or you get hurt by these kinds of things, no matter how small it seems to others. It is true that no one likes their own body (except maybe the most egocentric narcissistic person), nobody's body is perfect least of all to themselves, however this scar has been standing out for a long time especially since people point it out and tease about it whether in jest or cruelty I don't know but either way it doesn't matter, it is hurting her. | |
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fantasy
Joined: Jul 28, '09
Status: Senior User |
2009-11-13 09:11:05 |
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emogirl3: Your teacher, or anyone else, can't officially diagnose you unless they're professional psychiatrists. You may have depression, you may not, you may have something else altogether, but you shouldn't think you're depressed just because your teacher said so. That said, there's probably a reason your teacher told you you were depressed (unless he/she was joking around) so you should look into it |
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emogirl3
Joined: Nov 8, '09
Status: New User |
2009-11-13 17:20:27 |
| I went to a physiatrist and he wanted to put me on anti depressants,but do they work?? Because once I stop using them will it effect me? | |
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Hip
Joined: Aug 10, '09
Status: Senior User |
2009-11-13 23:39:29 |
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No they dont, they might treat some symptoms but they cant magically restore your self esteem and turn you into a happy go-lucky girl. Youll be exactly the same as before - except fat'n'fugly and then have a serious reason to cut/kill yourself or whatever. And yes, if you withdraw from the pills after prolonged usage, you will face serious problems. Avoid it like your mom teaches you to avoid cocaine. |
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emogirl3
Joined: Nov 8, '09
Status: Junior User |
2009-11-14 19:07:45 |
| ok, I got some that i didn't agree to and Im very hesitent on taking them, I only took 1 like 2 days ago and skipped this day and yesterday so.. | |
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erinro
Joined: Nov 13, '09
Status: New User |
2009-11-15 11:40:55 |
| Yeah, I took effexor for 3 years and it messed up my memory and gave me a sleep disorder. Antidepressants delay you dealing with your s--- and then when the side effects get too much and you have to go off them it's like you've lost years of your life and have to pick up where you left off, without the resources that you would have ordinarily built up to deal with life. They're dangerous. I prefer counselling or going to the wall. | |
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emogirl3
Joined: Nov 8, '09
Status: Junior User |
2009-11-15 12:17:28 |
| Im takiong lexapro 10 mg,it says it a anti anxiety and depression. Has any one takin that before? Does it help? | |
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louisvimal
Joined: Feb 15, '10
Status: New User |
2010-02-15 04:34:57 |
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10 years before i underwent a wrong surgery in my chest by a local doctor.I lost my two ariola(male nipples) and left 5 inch huge scars on both the sides.It tormented me so many years in my life.Oneday i thought why i should not accept my self even God himself accepted me.It seemed worth thinking.I felt if i really accept me then i should not need to be depressed nor feel discouraged.All will be set right.Bible says maamsa sinthai maranam.Aaviyin sinthayo jeevanum samaathaanamumaam.At that moment i decided not to worry about these earthly things and have to set things on high.It really helped me to leave behind all this ridiculous things which tormented me for years became NOTHING to me.If i trust and love JESUS then why should i allow these silly things to hold me back.And i decided and chose to be happy in JESUS CHRIST THE PEACE GIVER filled my heart with peace.I knew very sure my JESUS will feel proud of me.I decided not to allow the father of lies to tell a singe lie that i have ugly scars.He is the deciever.I decided not to entertain him by allowing negative thoughts into my mind.whenever he tries to pull me down i ll kick him with the word of GOD.I am very sure that JESUSCHRIST will feel happy.Feeling down is so waste.And wasting my precious life is too worst.I belive Jesus gave his life for me.He knows about my scar and pain.And i deecided to be happy in the name of jesus.scars in the flesh are nothing to be worried. And i choose to be happy in jesus christ.he never wants me to be worried or depressed.And this helped me to accept myself and move on with my life.Hereafter i no more feel depressed since it is just a disfigurement in skin.However it will not affect the relationship between me and my saviuor.God graciously given me the spirit to accept myself as i am.Jesus accepted me as i am.Then i am also accepted me.All the tormenting thoughts till that moment tormented me got nullified little by little by the spirit of God.I felt so happy and here is the spirit of God helped me to go off past.Jesus is the God of Past.I allowed jesus to enter into my heart and Jesus erased all the past hurts in my heart. I am no longer slave to this thougt of self consciuos and depression.Because one who made me still lives to takecare of all my needs.God wanted me to accept myself.Once i accepted me God started to workthrough me.And daily morning God directs me and gives me new GRACE to lead that day successfully.And i practiced to pray regularly.Prayer and worship is the great weapons to get great strength and Grace i am getting from GOD. |
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