Thread Topic: What if I like me this way?
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AngstyKitsune
Joined: Nov 19, '09
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2009-11-19 07:46:30 |
| I find this hard to come to terms with. It would seem that I have a number of conditions to hinder me. One of them is Paranoia (the test rates me Very High). However, being paranoid, as well as some of my other "conditions", are actually traits which I consider to be desirable. If I get treatment, they will likely want to treat all of my perceived problems. This I DO NOT want. Is there a reliable way to ensure that I get only the help I want, without people with misguided good intentions trying to change me from the person I want to be? | |
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Unanswered Thread: paranoid hypochondriac posted by cncathy 4 hours ago |
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Beka
Joined: Nov 9, '09
Status: New User |
2009-11-19 08:14:59 |
| i feel the same, its like this is part of me and its a small part that makes up me i dont want that part to be taken away and me to be changed. if that makes any sense to anyone... | |
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AngstyKitsune
Joined: Nov 19, '09
Status: New User |
2009-11-19 09:00:06 |
| Well, obviously it does to me. I feel that the things others see as "wrong" with me are just how I am. Changing those qualities would be like becoming a different person. Someone that the me I am now can't know, and might not even like. People tell me that getting help won't mean that who I am changes, but that's not how it feels to me. I want to add to what I am, not take away from it...if that makes any sense. | |
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Beka
Joined: Nov 9, '09
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2009-11-19 11:08:10 |
| that makes perfect sense to me and is exactly how i feel but im not too good at putting things into words | |
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Charlata
Joined: Nov 19, '09
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2009-11-19 13:45:18 |
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I just tested as "very high" in multiple categories: paranoid, schizotypal, borderline, histrionic, and narcissistic. How could this be true? I don't believe that it is. So perhaps you shouldn't believe your test results either. If you're functioning perfectly and don't feel impaired by the qualities the test says you possess, don't worry about it. I'm not going to. I also don't think you should worry about being forced to change who you are if you decide to seek therapy for maybe possessing some schizotypal or paranoid traits. Ultimately you're in control of the reshaping of your own personality. You can accept or reject feedback given by anyone, including a therapist. So even if you go to therapy, you won't immediately absorb your therapist's worldview and your personality isn't going to dissolve away. If you sense that you're being steered in a direction that isn't right for you, put on the brakes. Therapists aren't incredibly powerful individuals who can drastically change who you are. Only you can do that. They're just trained in the art of asking questions which will get you to reflect introspectively on your own life. |
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AngstyKitsune
Joined: Nov 19, '09
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2009-11-19 14:13:35 |
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I don't mean to be rude, but certainty that there is nothing wrong with one's self is a fairly common trait of Narcissists. I test high for Narcissism as well, but I have also been known to be brutally honest (in particular with myself), and I tend to pick things apart. Also, I never said that my ability to function was not impaired. My certainty that others have already formed a negative opinion of me prevents me from seeking work. I don't feel comfortable in my own home, or associating with loved one's, for fear of threats I only vaguely understand to begin with. Even when I know my fears are misguided or illogical, I can't get around them. I even have a permanent scar on my hand from an incident where I clawed open my own skin so that I would be sent away from a place I had convinced myself was "too dangerous" to remain in. So, yes, I am certain I really do have these traits. I just don't think all of them are things that NEED to go away. |
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erinro
Joined: Nov 13, '09
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2009-11-20 14:01:44 |
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I think your skepticism of mental health "cures" is v. healthy, AngstyKitsune. I was on antidepressants for 3 years and it was one of the worst decisions I made. Not that there's nothing wrong with me or I'm not depressed now, but it was like sweeping the bad stuff under a carpet. Now it is all back and I've misplaced my broom. Re: therapists, I agree with Charlata. Getting the help you want and ignoring the s--- is up to you, to a certain extent; you have to be skeptical. Which it sounds like you already are. Psychoanalytic therapy in particular I find is pretty hands off; my therapist doesn't for example suggest that my "problem" is my marriage like the last one did - which I found pretty irresponsible. |
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handfulandahalf
Joined: Oct 8, '09
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2009-11-25 07:37:47 |
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I agree, you have a say in who you are. It took me a long time to like myself and now that I do. . . no one can tell me what to change. Many have tried to shape me into what they think I should be but none have suceeded. I have become a stronger, better person for it. I also do not "mix" with alot of people because they do not take the time to know me before starting their molding process. There are several characteristics I have that are annoying to other people, and its their choice to be around it or not. |
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Hip
Joined: Aug 10, '09
Status: Senior User |
2009-11-25 14:35:14 |
| What are the characteristics? | |
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